Internalized homophobia and FtMs, again

This post is a part of a series of posts based on the book Female-to-Male Transsexuals in Society by Holly/Aaron Devor. My introductory post on the series can be found here.

The chapter Looking for Love details their growing awareness of their sexuality, starting with their masturbation fantasies and ending with their first sexual experiences with other people. There is a constant, obvious theme of internalized homophobia throughout their narratives, based on the fact that although these young women wanted to make love to other women, they believed they could only do so as men.

This post contains frank and open discussion of masturbation so TMI warning!

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Autostraddle Editor Heather Hogan: Lesbianism is like Nazism (with Hetero/Bisexuals playing Jews)


HeteroQueer Autostraddle Editor Heather Hogan Profile Pic HeteroQueer Handmaiden Autostraddle Editor Heather Hogan

Have a look at this.


The festering boil of man-loving female “Queers” who have battered and destroyed Lesbian Spaces, Lesbian Culture, and Lesbian Lives for the last 20 some years erupted in a stream of foul puss this week in response to the hiring of an actual Lesbian editor to run the ostensibly Lesbian-centric website AfterEllen.

The site had been destroyed by a cluster of hetero “queer” women writers and a commentariat empowered by fired former editor, the awful Trish Bendix, who believes homosexuality is oppressive to those who engage in heterosexuality, that women oppress men by declining to socialize with them, and that lesbian speech, the lesbian politic, and unique lesbian culture should be censored by any means necessary. Their goal? To suppress lesbian-specific content and community and drive lesbians and lesbian culture out of public life. Their motive? Colonization and sexual…

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Responding to Skepto re: evangelicals

Purple Sage

Skepto makes me think a lot. I honestly would need to write like a thousand word essay for each of his paragraphs if I were to respond to him properly, and it’s too overwhelming to respond to everything, so I just respond to what seems the most important. This comment about evangelicals made me chuckle, and I guess since I found it amusing I wanted to write about it.

I said: “The hatred evangelicals feel for both trans and gay people might be the exact same thing: homophobia based on someone either being gay or being perceived to be gay.”

Skepto said: “Ts ts, it wasn’t hatred. It was love and compassion and a genuine desire for them to come to find joy in the LORD, listening to His words of wisdom, and living the life He has planned for them which alone will give them freedom and inner…

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National Geographic’s “Gender Revolution” Special Issue

Gender Identity Watch

gender-revolutionNational Geographic, the official magazine of the National Geographic Society, recently revealed the two cover designs chosen for their special issue titled “Gender Revolution.”

One cover features a 9-year old Avery Jackson, a 9-year old boy who identifies as a girl, wearing pink from head to toe and lounging above the quote, “The best thing about being a girl is, now I don’t have to pretend to be a boy.”  Whatever that means.

The alternate cover shows a group of seven individuals, each accompanied by a small white caption noting the individual’s “gender.”  Although National Geographic found room for two individuals who are identified as “transgender female,” and one identified as “male” there apparently wasn’t enough room to include every gender.  Notably, although not surprisingly, missing from the “gender revolution”: WOMEN.

According to National Geographic’s editor, Susan Goldberg, “Today that and other beliefs about gender are shifting rapidly and radically. That’s why we’re…

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Gender dysphoric lesbians: the struggle through adolescence

This post is a part of a series of posts based on the book Female-to-Male Transsexuals in Society by Holly/Aaron Devor. My introductory post on the series can be found here.

The chapters on puberty and adolescence document the way the individuals interviewed reacted to the onset of menstruation and growing breasts and the way their social world changed during adolescence. Not surprisingly, they were distressed about the changes that came from puberty because they were proof that they were female, which is something they didn’t want to be. They became more socially isolated during adolescence because they were masculine, same-sex attracted females in a world that expected them to be feminine and heterosexual. The author documents the interviews in a neutral way without adding analysis or drawing conclusions, however I will be adding my own analysis. The most significant difference between the author’s report and my interpretation is that I do not see these participants as inherently male. The idea that females can be inherently or essentially male due to their personalities, degree of masculinity, or feelings about themselves is absurd and unscientific, not to mention sexist. Females who cannot fit into a feminine gender role and are attracted to other females are, in fact, lesbian, not male.

Devor explains: “Twelve participants (27 percent) said that they had either simply accepted their menses when it began or had chosen to put it out of their minds as much as possible so as to avoid dwelling on something which they could not change. Approximately half of all participants (51 percent), however, did state that they had felt intense emotional discomfort about their menses while they were adolescents. They frequently resorted to very strong language to capture the force of their reactions; they used terms such as “shameful and disgusting,” “degrading,” “humiliating,” “abhorrent,” “repulsive,” “a nightmare,” “doomsday,” and “pure hell” to describe their feelings about menstruation. As participants explained the situation, there were two interlocking reasons for their passionate reactions. One was that, concurrently with their attainment of adolescence, they began to be subjected to unrelenting social pressures to abandon their tomboyish ways and join the ranks of womanhood. They perceived these initiatives as curtailing their freedoms and as inimical to their natures. The other reason was that for many participants, their menses were insurmountable proof that they were not boys and would not grow up to be men. This was a devastating blow to many participants (p193.)”

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My blogging year 2016

Thank you so much for your writing, purplesagefem.

Purple Sage

The year 2016 was absolute shit in the world in general. But this post is not about that—it’s just about my blogging year. Some great stuff happened here in 2016!

My favourite two pieces from 2016 were the Manifesto of the Gender Rebels and my lesbian fairy tale, Beauty and the Butch. I love the Manifesto for the pride it demonstrates in being gender nonconforming and the way it summarizes the gender critical feminist position. I owe a big thank you to the commenters who helped me think of it and write it—arainandagale, captainyourface, and bullydawg. I love the fairy tale because I rarely ever write fiction but this piece seemed to just come to me suddenly. It was born out of the need for lesbian representation and the need to see ourselves reflected as heroes in stories. I am really happy with the way it turned out. I…

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We can’t have a women’s movement if we don’t call ourselves women

When National Geographic magazine put together the newsstand cover (above right) for its January 2017 “Gender Revolution” special edition, it left something out. The cover is a group shot designed to show the range of genders now available in the heralded revolution, a cluster of seven people each annotated with an identity: “intersex non-binary”, “transgender female”, “transgender female” (a second one), “bi-gender”, “transgender male”, “androgynous”, and “male”. What’s missing? As feminists noted once the cover was circulated – but as National Geographic either didn’t notice, or didn’t consider notable – there’s no “female” here.

Source: We can’t have a women’s movement if we don’t call ourselves women

Double mastectomy is the new flannel

Purple Sage

I know I said I wasn’t going to blog until the New Year, and it’s December 27th, but whatever.

An article with the ghastly title of “Bye-bye, boobies” talks about the coming double mastectomy of one non-binary lesbian.

“Marostica is a lesbian who identifies as “non-binary” or “gender-queer” — in other words, she doesn’t solely identify as either masculine or feminine — and as such, she is seeking to have her breasts removed in order to have her physical being more closely match the way she perceives and feels herself to be.

” ‘Top surgery’ is a double mastectomy,” Marostica explains. “I identify as androgynous; I love being a woman, and I prefer ‘she’ or ‘they’ as pronouns, but I don’t identify with my breasts… (after the surgery), when I look in the mirror, I’ll see myself the way I really am.”

The results of the proliferation of…

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The problem with @ruth_hunt and LGBT organisations: silencing and erasing lesbians

A butterfly's diary

Ruth Hunt is the Chief Executive of Stonewall, a UK charity allegedly campaigning for LGBT rights. It was founded in 1989 in response to Section 28, a homophobic piece of legislation which stated that local authorities, among other things, should not intentionally “promote the teaching in any maintained school of the acceptability of homosexuality as a pretended family relationship”. Although Stonewall has played a great part in bringing about positive changes for LGB people, it has now clearly taken a line that goes completely against the interests and rights of lesbians. Worse still, it frames lesbians as hateful bigots, legitimising our silencing and erasure from discussions on so-called LGBT issues. The L might as well not be there.

So what is going on? The issue boils down to this: the denial by trans activists of biology and of the realities of living in sexed bodies. According to them, sex…

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Boats are all called She

Words by Maria Catt

(I’m trying to very hard to finish a big piece of writing due at the end of the week. It’s not coming very quickly. So this is a poem to remind me writing is a good time.)

Boats are all called She

We call them she because we use them

to keep men alive

a floating home for the adventurous

fall off the boat you’re as good as dead

thank god boats don’t have opinions on where to go

what waters they feel safe in

if a boat could see an iceberg coming

she would have to suck it up and ram right into it

boats are fortunately very quiet

men guide boats according to their plans

sometimes good, sometimes bad

you can’t even start the journey without procuring the boat

does anyone bother to tell the boat where they’re taking her?

or do they just load her up with supplies

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