Matthew Harks, a convicted pedophile living in the Calgary, Alberta area, has legally changed his name to Madilyn (Rebecca) Harks, presumably with the intention of identifying as a woman and obtaining a government-funded sex change. Harks, who is known to befriend families with the intent of harming their children and has sexually assaulted young girls, is currently under long-term supervision in order to prevent further offenses. According to Correctional Service Canada, “Victims are entitled to be informed of offender name changes.”
sian and crooked rib writes:
So someone tweeted this blogpost from The F Word yesterday about the need for gender-neutral toilets. The article made some good points about the need for more gender-neutral toilet provision – for example to help out parents with opposite sex children, people caring for a member of the opposite sex, and also for trans or non-binary people who are concerned about being misgendered and the violence that can follow this. To me, this is where the debate about gender-neutral loos is surely meant to be sitting – there simply isn’t enough public toilet provision anyway, and we need to increase that provision to ensure everyone’s needs are met.
And then I read this paragraph
The shelter, relative privacy and access to running water that public toilets provide have made them useful places to have sex when folks have nowhere else to do it, but they don’t particularly lend themselves to sexual assault. In the Ladies, women remain fully-dressed outside locked cubicles. These are rooms where people may walk in at any time. Currently, there’s nothing stopping men entering the Ladies (and indeed, the laws proposed in the US would force trans men to do so) but these aren’t common locations for sexual violence; outside of horror movies, ongoing drug deals and norovirus epidemics, public toilets are pretty safe.
The paragraph has now been removed from the article, after an exchange on Twitter where the editor apologised to me. I really appreciate the apology and the acknowledgement that this paragraph could result in upset and hurt. However, I started this post so I’ll finish, as the article isn’t the only place I’ve seen this dismissal…
What I want to address is the sweeping statement that women’s loos ‘don’t lend themselves to sexual assault.’
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Informative as to the state of the culture and how it impacts youth and pushes people further towards sex stereotypes, even if you don’t agree with it all.
Six or seven years ago (and longer!) there were huge debates taking place about the term “queer”, what it meant to the lesbian, gay, bi and trans community, whether it should be added onto the acronym and whether people who defined specifically as “queer”, to the exclusion of any of the other letters, should be welcomed into LGBT spaces.
At the time, the term “queer” represented a radical element that was highly attractive. Here were a group of people who seemed to be anti-capitalist, unapologetic, anti-assimilationist, aggressive and non-conformist. And to 20 year-old-me they just looked so bloody cool. I came through school and college having the word lesbian hissed at me, but not really having any other language to describe myself. I argued viciously for the inclusion of the “Q”, and shouted down the concerns raised by older (and sometimes not) members of the LGBT community that the word…
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Conservatives are borrowing “myths” from feminists to undermine transgender bathroom policies, said an article shared by my ex. Trans people just aren’t a threat, the article insisted.
Below, a list of the people who undermine the credibility of that claim. Not radical feminists, not conservatives. These guys, who unfortunately for the trans movement, do exist (and in large numbers).
Due to the oppressively large body of source material to work from, this is a work in progress and will updated from time to time.
Dressed as woman to photograph women in ladies’ restrooms
Took “multiple photos of different women in bathroom stalls around the city with their pants down.”
Christopher Todd Gard
Assaulted, choked 8-year-old in restroom while armed, wearing only women’s underwear
Arrested on complaints of aggravated assault and battery, assault with a dangerous weapon, possession of a firearm during a felony, kidnapping and indecent exposure.
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I once belonged to an email group for the spouses of transgender people. I also visited online forums for spouses. I read Christine Benvenuto’sSex Changes and the few blogs on the topic I could find.
I hadn’t done any of that in a long while, as it had become obvious that I wouldn’t be the spouse of a transgender person for much longer. But yesterday, someone pointed me to an article, and I found myself again browsing one of these spouses’ forums.
What struck me, as I looked with fresh eyes, is that every spouse there is saying the same things, and has always said the same things, and will always say the same things. And they say them like they’re new and unique, but they all say them, and they all try and try and try to find fresh new answers, and they all fail to do so in the…
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Tell you what. I picked the wrong year to detransition. Trans stuff is ALWAYS in the news. My good liberal group of friends consistently post memes on facebook on trans stuff. People who I clearly remember telling jokes about “tranny” prostitutes at parties now post “I’ll go with you to the bathroom” memes. I mean, that’s a marked improvement. But holy crap is it hard to not get drawn into it. I just want to correct their misinformation so much. Like, one guy posted this thing from a Kroger in Georgia that was a sign about their gender-neutral bathroom and his caption was, “See, this isn’t hard.” It took EVERYTHING for me not to correct him- the trans high school students who ran campaigns in NC and VA about bathroom access specifically were REJECTING the gender-neutral bathroom options their schools were offering. The Charlotte non-discrimination ordinance the NC governor signed this bill in…
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In Chapter 8 of Odd Girls and Twilight Lovers, Lillian Faderman describes the lesbian revolutions from the 1960s and the 1970s. Up to this point in U.S. history, lesbians were discouraged from organizing in groups because of the view that lesbians were sick, and because of the Great Depression and McCarthyism, but the 1960s brought a new spirit of organizing for liberation.
Picketing became popular as a form of protest, and some newspapers began to mention gay rights. Gay rights activists challenged organized religion’s lack of acceptance and the number of homophile organizations increased. There were gay rights organizations even during the McCarthy era, but they were able to become bolder in the 1960s.
The most important moment in American gay rights history happened in the 1960s, which I’m sure you’ve all heard of—Stonewall!
“On June 28, 1969, in the midst of a New York mayoral campaign—a time when…
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We can’t expect others to see us as we see ourselves, but everyone deserves compassionate medical treatment.
From The Advocate, Trans Men Need the Competent Fertility Care I Never Got.
This is the story of a trans man being misgendered while getting her eggs retrieved so they can be implanted into her wife for gestation. (And I note that this trans man is biologically female and has a female partner, which, by the way, makes her a lesbian.)
“For as long as I can remember, I have wanted children. For most of my life, I thought that I would carry my child, but those feelings changed shortly after I came out as a trans man and started taking testosterone. Producing a genetically related child was still important to me, but I was no longer able to see myself carrying a pregnancy. After discussing all of our options, my wife, Caroline, and I decided that the closest we would ever get to creating another human together would be…
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